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Donovan oversharing thread 2023

Donovan

Donovan

beer, I want beer
In this thread I will overshare what I've been up to in recent years that has kept me away from the board. I will answer questions posed in earnest, overshare the stuff that made my recent past interesting, and accept posts from others who also must overshare. I do this to keep a promise to our benevolent overlord/owner/admin, who sought me out, said some lovely things, and guilt-tripped me into making a return. Tricky bastard.
 
1. Relationship adjustments: in early 2022 I made a seismic shift in relationship status from an agoraphobia alcoholic spiraling into her own destruction, to a vibrant and active Deadhead music/concert aficionado who immediately dragged me into her inner circle of hundreds of hippie friends, brought me to a ton of shows I'd have otherwise found excuses to miss, and reminded me my last twenty-five years of pretend social respectability have been a poorly worn costume. I inherited a semi-stepdaughter from the old relationship but little else except unpleasant memories. Kid was still worth the headache and I'd do it again even knowing how it was gonna turn out. Turns out I have a soft spot for neglected kids...
So far since last May I've seen Robert Plant, the Who, Santana, Ani DiFranco, Dead and Company with Bobby Weir and John Mayer, Wolf Brothers with Bobby Weir and some other guys, Phil Lesh and Friends with Phil Lesh and, err, friends, JJ Cale, Joan Osborne, a bunch of other Grateful Dead variations, and assorted other concerts too numerous to mention. It's been a blast.
 
I'm so happy for you Donovan! My only question is what is your favorite breakfast food? Reading anything good? What is your favorite season?
 
Mirah said:
I'm so happy for you Donovan! My only question is what is your favorite breakfast food? Reading anything good? What is your favorite season?
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Don't eat much for breakfast except a banana and coffee, sometimes a boiled egg if I remember to make them ahead. However, I tend to eat my prepared lunch at 8 in the morning so one might say my lunch is what I eat for breakfast.
I'm reading my usual four or five books at a time, but the one currently on top is an autobiography of Ani DiFranco I picked up at the concert. It's good, but my reading time is limited these days so I haven't ripped thru it like I normally do such books. I also picked up a bunch of history and bios at an antiquarian book sale last week but I haven't opened any yet. Soon.
I love spring and fall best, but there are things to appreciate during all of them. Not a big fan of snow just because of all the driving I have to do, but life is good so complaints are small...
 
Life changing #2: in the earliest part of this year, day after Xmas if I'm honest, the car I was in got t-boned coming out of a blind driveway and fucked our whole year. Concussion, ruptured spleen, couple broken spine bones, all in all not a good time and I was the luckiest in the car. But we all got incredibly lucky overall, fuckin subarus are the bomb, yo. We all essentially walked away when maybe we shouldn't have, and at this point we are all relatively healed with some twinge and collateral leftovers. Hell of a way to start a year and it really changed the entire trajectory for months...
 
CaptainWacky said:
When a spleen ruptures, do they always remove it or can they like sew it up? (Probably a stupid question.)
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Truthfully? I thought I was fine. I was really fucked up for a few weeks and concussions are no joke, I couldn't get up outta bed I just had to kind of, roll off and fall down, then force myself up with my arms. But I got better and I'm a stubborn bastard so I had to get badgered into getting tested by the aforementioned hippie chick. I submitted to these ultrasounds and x-rays thinking I'd get the all clear and instead they made me turn the car around and go to the ER.
I will say this: the LAST THING you ever wanna hear sitting in emergency is your team of experts saying "this is some shit I've never seen before, you guys gotta come look at this". Apparently my rupture was so bad I was supposed to just fall over at some point, but I'm so goddamn stubborn I ignored it until it formed a hematoma and sealed itself. Had a huge mass of congealed blood in there and all of them wanted to take it out with the entire spleen, but the last guy said it had been so long there was no point to re-opening the injury. So they sent me home and told me to call if I died or anything. That was also when I found out I'd broken my spine. I thought I just tweaked my muscles a bit. I guess it was kind of a freak way to heal up so basically I'm immortal...
My gf son got thrown from the vehicle and broke his pelvis badly, wound up sleeping in our front room for 6 months, and I got moved into the house like a week after the accident because I couldn't get up the stairs to my apartment. So when I say it changed everything...yeah.
 
Major event #3:
About 30 years ago, give or take, I was a young turk in Vegas playing at being a grownup in my first real life adult relationship. Short version, I fucked it up beyond repair being immature and stupidly stubborn. She was pregnant, there was lawyer drama, and I was strong armed into signing away adoption rights to a child I was told was severely developmentally disabled etc. It literally changed the course of my life and I spent the last thirty years taking care of other disabled persons because I lost my daughter and would never ever get a chance to meet or see her. Ever.

Except I found her. And she's healthy. And she's not disabled in the slightest. And she knows she's adopted and knows my name. So I reached out, we have texted back and forth the better part of the year, and I have been able to get to know the daughter I never thought I'd meet on any level. When I say my heart is full of joy I kid you not. I've been slowly telling her my life story and realizing just how fucked up a lot of it was. So that's fun...
 
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