Henoch said:
He likes to watch TV (Nascar racing & Hitler documentaries) & get's pissed when anyone talks while he is watching. ..SERIOUSLY!
Well, i don't know 100% for sure he is gonna die. Would like to have some sorta bonding experience with him, just have NO clue as to what that could possibly be. I recently went over to the parents house for father's day & brought him a gift...he said "thank you" & then sat in front of the freakin' tv set for the next several hours while i chatted with my mother. He's just one of those people who doesn't wanna be bothered, even by his own kids. My brother has basically disowned my father & has grown tired of his crap & moved out of the country. Perhaps some people are just best left alone.
Doesn't matter if he's doomed or not. His health is failing, and before long you won't have the opportunity.
Let me give you an example: my dad was a prize asshole most of his life, did shit to me and my family that left indelible scars. Many of his children refuse to speak to him. But he's 75, his health is failing, and he needs a purpose to stay alive. Like your dad, he doesn't much care for socializing. I don't live in the same state. So how do I bond?
Simple. There are three things pop likes: reflecting on his pool playing skills past and present, his ability to fix up junk cars, and getting a good bargain. I hate cars, I hate gambling because of him, and I know most of the shit he buys is shit. But every other week, I call and talk to him about pool, what tournament he entered, how he placed, who he beat, what money he won. Then I tell him about something I bought at a garage sale or auction and what a deal it was. Then I tell him something is wrong with my car and ask him his opinion. Can he help? No. Do I care about any of these things? Not really. But it makes him feel like he still matters.
Next time you go to your dad's and he's watching NASCAR, sit down and watch it with him. Don't try to chat or ask him how the day went, just watch cars endlessly turning left for three hours. Before you do, study up on one driver, learn some shit in case he decides to talk, then tell him you've been following the career of "fill in the blank" a little, then ask him what he thinks of the guy. You want a hint? Go with
Danica Patrick, NASCAR fans always have an opinion about her.
So what if you don't give a shit about NASCAR or the female driver. He'll know you're bullshitting, you'll know it, but none of that matters. He'll appreciate the thought.
Good luck.