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Threesome Decision

Love Child

One Love
Hi. So, um I have this friend, her name is Molly. Molly is always saying things like, "Hey if you want an extra person in that relationship, just let me know" etc etc and mostly no one has taken her up on that offer.
One couple has-it just has not been convienient yet......
Anyway
She got an offer last night to be the second wife. It would be her dream come true-why, I don't know. Really I would prefer to be the first wife, but thats just me.
Should she go through with this....what can she expect? Is it a good idea? Would you do it?
My suggestion to her is that she do it, but not long term, maybe try it out for a while...see how it goes. However it would mean changing states, jobs, basically everything-and for what? Sex with a girl she loves-to be a sex slave-to be used? Is it worth it?!
 
So, who would she end up being the spouse for? The man or the woman?

And why aren't you on MSN?
 
She would be the womans spouse I am assuming. Does that make a difference? I guess it does. See, if I did it-I would want to be his spouse-I wonder what his feelings are on it.....if only I knew.
 
If she ends up being his second spouse it'd probably be a bad idea. However, if she's gonna be her second spouse, I assume it'll probably be ok.
 
While the idea of threesomes appeal to me, the fact that the two times I have tried it casually ended poorly makes me shy away from any permanent or semipermanent arraignment.
 
While the idea of threesomes appeal to me, the fact that the two times I have tried it casually ended poorly makes me shy away from any permanent or semipermanent arraignment.

And that is all I hear.....Have I ever heard of one where it worked out? No.
 
The ultimate problem is that you can't know what another person is feeling. So, constant communication is key.
 
Here is the #1 thing people overlook with "poly" households:

IT MUST BE A TRUE THREESOME. "APEX" relationships do not work!!!!!!

I.e. If she is to be a second wife, she must love both of her new partners. Sex isn't always a requirement, but it has to be a relationship between all parties. Two people who are 'waiting for notice' from an apex partner while competing or ignoring each other is why so many of these fail.
That means that there are two relationships to handle, not just one. And it also means that the two submissive members have to like/love each other, not just the Dom/Domme. At times that means the Dom/Domme "looses" arguments or doesn't get their way. That's one of the aspects that the fantasy often overlooks.

The other thing seems to be a private space. Everyone needs their own room where they can retreat to. They may usually sleep together, but everyone needs their own territory, even if one's status is one of a collared slave.

Remember: marriages are ONE relationship, and are hard. Triads are two relationships (per person), plus an additional relationship between the other two that will AFFECT the third as well. It's much more complex. If one's hard, two and a half is much harder.

Quads are a little easier, IMHO (and what I have experience with). At least there can be alliances...even if it's 12 relationships in all...

PM me if you wish. Best of luck to your friend.
-SB
 
The ultimate problem is that you can't know what another person is feeling. So, constant communication is key.

Exactly. And dealing with one other person is difficult enough. Double it and it's damn near impossible IMO.


Which is why IF we were to end up trying any kind of swinging relationship, it would be completely casual.
 
Molly loves both of them. If the first wife would be willing to let Molly and him have a relationship she will consider it. But if Molly is only to be this woman's sex slave, as much as she would love that-there are also some complications to it. Molly seeks mutual satisfaction as well and is afraid of being used and not pleasured. More trust would have to be established.
The husband is away frequently on trips so mostly the two woman would be keeping each other company.
The more I write this, the more I realize Molly probably is not ready to settle down yet and is already feeling trapped and in a cage.
More to come.
Thank you for the input. I'll pass it on to Molly.
 
Speaking as someone who routinely engages in such behavior, nothing good can come of this. Why? Because she's not wanting to hook up, she wants a relationship. Unless the established couple is extremely open and secure, this will end badly.
 
Molly doesn't want to be a sex slave as much as she needs to be the center of attention. Her attention, his attention, "their" attention and "probably" not just in a sexual context. The couple she keeps will be the true slaves, not her. One side of that deal is going to get sucked dry long before the relationship turns stale and tossed out like that last moldy slice of bread while the other side turns to a fresh loaf and there's no telling which way it'll go until "somebody" decloaks. In other words, if the couple in question doesn't turn out to be the nutcase it will be her and when the shit hits the fan everybody's going to feel crapped on.

I say it's not worth the time or effort to get into but I'm normal to begin with.
 
By the way: evenflow is a sick freak and as for Sadistic Bastard I don't know, he seems to make sense here at TK but I wonder where else posts (we know about you man).
 
I knew you'd say that evenflow which is why I'm going to allow your response to my comment about you speak for itself and let my next comment drive my point home: You're sick, just sick. So sick I'm picking the bacterium from my nose as I type this. I mean it form a crust man. Get into something healthy before they find you in a lunch box under a tarp somewhere.
 
To what Che, your sick fantasies of threesomes with butt ugly chicks not even you wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole if there weren't two of them to freak on? I will-not-enjoy masturbating to the thought of you having threesomes on a regular basis but I will do something: Pray for your soul you godless fiend, you're just sick.
 
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