Sex means more than the physical act. What it means is that you are in a place in your life where you are having a lot of fun with the opposite or in other cases same sex. It usually means that your social life is solid, you are a happier person and you have self respect. That covers recreational sex as well.
But, after a while you are going to want a relationship with somebody. I get laid simply because I go out a lot. (I *was* going out a lot) here and in England it's very similar in that respect. Go out, have a laugh, have a drink, go to some bars or clubs and make friends with some new people and maybe take a girl back at the end of the night. The other way is through the less "party" lifestyle of meeting new friends in social circles and spending time with them, going to there houses, meeting there friends, blah, blah, blah...
You need self confidence though. Both sexes sell themself short when it comes to if the prospective mate likes them or not.
My love life is a shambles. Many complex factors play into why that is the case. I am not good at relationships and I am not good with sharing my time and I am quite severley picky about who I would want in my life. Waaaay more picky than who I would sleep with. I will sleep with any girl with tits, a half way decent face and a body not the size of a concrete elephant. I never want to actually TALK to them though. How absurd.
I have reservations about whether I will ever hook up with the right girl to the point where I can safley say that I am content and want to work my very hardest to keep that relationship alive. I doubt very seriosuly and with logical reasons that I will not be in a relationship with anyone for a fair whack of time to come. I'm not there yet in my own mind and last time I rushed into shit I got pissed off and annoyed because I rushed in too quick without catching a breath. I will probably have more senseless nameless liasons which are thin on the ground themselves before I sort my life out.
But in all honestly Wacky, you will have to bite the bullet one day. You will have to overcome the paranoia and agraphobia or whatever it is you are suffering from. (I've been there, not a stab) You clearly have social fears and anxieties. Everyone thinks they are special in this respect, they all think they can't be saved, they resign themselves to lives of self imposed celibacy and depression for no reason whatsoever.
Go and get a part time job, meet some people and only talk when nessecary. A rambing fool is just that.. A fool. (peers up at all the shit I have written)
Just go out and have some fun. Just go to the bar with SOMEONE. You must have some friends, some people you know. You have lived in the same house for years and years so there must be someone to phone up or hook up with.
Go out and live it. You are way way smarter than the average ape so you have an advantage right there.
DO IT WACKY!
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