Since my old "Ask me anything" thread is archived

[emme]

:lol:

From what I have seen, as risk of bringing SBs wrath upon me, it is not women with no self-esteem who are into being a submissive.

It is extremely strong women who are or have had to be strong, in control, in an area of leadership who are intrigued by letting go completely and handing the reigns to someone else.

Think about it...do you have the internal fortitude and will it takes to put complete and utter trust in another person's hands? To put your life, safety and deepest fantasies at the whims of another? I would wager most people would say no.

A woman with no self-esteem is not going to seek or find pleasure at being made to feel weaker or in being humiliated. A strong woman won't feel weak while giving her all and indulging her fantasies.

Quoted for truth and a big "hell ya".

This was an excellent post. You understand the dynamic really well.

 

[Sadistic Bastard]

SB...how would you define romance and how do you create it for your loved ones?

I define romance as intense, focused, unselfish attention. When you are truly romantically attracted, you listen, you watch, you evaluate. You listen to what they say verses what they do. You pick up on the subtleties. You start to build a desire in yourself to share things with them.

I create romance through this process. I notice, and if I'm very good (and I usually am), I notice things they don't know about themselves. I give experiences that open up those un-noticed things. I hold the little secrets and revelations for a time, and then create with them. It can be a kind of dinner, a set of music, a show, or a sexual scene. But in all cases is is uniquely and recognizably for them.

This takes energy. It takes time. It's the real gift you can give, because it comes from a desire to give it.

That is romance to me.

-SB

 

[I Love Cunt]

I want to be nailed to the wall
its all your fault
you made my panties fall
from my legs
to the floor
my nipples are stiff
my chest moves up and down
with each breathe
unable to contain
please
please
you know
what
I
want
Your stories
I've read them
I'm never the same after
its not fair
I tremble inside
there is no question for you to answer
only hair
to pull
pull my head back
kiss me
bite me
my lips
every part of me
wants
desires
there is not one part of my body
absent of desire
should I suppress it?
There is my question.
Will you answer it?

 

[Sadistic Bastard]

Sex is not the end-all be-all of existence. There is a time/place to obsess over a lover, and idea, a practice. But sex should not be "all". Just as any other distraction, there can be too much of it. Like a drug.

So, if you are unable to function as a rounded person, then yes, you should suppress it at times.

One of the things I've found over the years of having a "24/7" D/s relationship is that the Dom, at times, needs to use his authority to call a "break". Sometimes the sub doesn't want one, but she'll need it for balance. Keeping your sub mentally healthy is part of the responsibility just as much as ensuring her physical safety. There is a time to hold her completely in Thrall. There is a time for her to not be, to be more herself as opposed to your creation, so that she may evolve and grow, and bring new and unexpected colors to the pallet she presents to you. It's part of the Dom's burden: to watch, and to judge when to reel her back for her own sake.
So, poetry such as the above is good. The mental state it alludes to is good. But one cannot exist there all of the time, for both health...and for the fact that you don't want it to become "common". Edges become dull if you sit on them all of the time.

As for your second question: Yes, I believe I just have.
-SB

 

[Mirah]

To have an Oasis in the desert one must first have a desert, and an Oasis. What if all there is is desert?

 

[Sadistic Bastard]

Seek water, dig deep if necessary...or march to the sea.

(smile)

-SB

 

[Marquis De Sade]

I approve of this thread.

 

[Consumer]

Thank you.

You all may resume your questions.

 

[Consumer]

As I reflect in August, I see a great deal of what I was, what I am, and what has changed.

Ask, and the answers may well be different than what they were. Some the same, some wiser, and some far less entertaining.

Ask the white dwarf what he did as a Red Giant, or even in his long days in the main sequence...but be polite enough not to mention the Nova.

 

[Loktar]

I sense another wave of "Ask me anything" threads to hit here and the MF.

 

[Consumer]

That was not a question.